Is it wise for a lady to help her guy raising brideprice/lobola money?

Ladies and gentlemen, i have a question. Is there anything wrong for a lady helping her guy raising bride price/lobola money? Let's say, for example, a guy who is struggling to make ends meet is in love with a girl who is also struggling financially are in love and they want to spend their lives together, will it be a bad idea if they decide to put together the little they get towards the lobola/bride price. Will it not be easier for them instead of the girl waiting for her guy until he is able to faint on his own to raise the money?
It might take him ten years to put together a certain figure, maybe appropriate for lobola. Will the girl still wait or they will end up cohabiting without following the proper channels of marriage.
Another case is like this, when the guy is poor and the girl is well up {RICH}. Is it not proper for the lady to give a helping hand to her guy? What's the different? After all the money-the lady's money will be their as a family when they get married, so why not helping early so that life can be easier for both of them. Another question. Will the lady's parents accept the money if they finds out that, part of the bride price/lobola money was contributed by their own daughter, maybe all of it?
Some people say that, for a lady to help her guy to pay lobola will mean that she would have given herself to the guy for free. And also, they say that for guy to pay lobola on his own shows that he really loves the girl and values her a lot.
what's your opinion folks? What do you think about this whole Lobola/bride price saga? Feel free let's share!!!!!!
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